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"A
Surefire Way To
Manage Your Fears
While Leading
A
Happier, Healthier Life"
Imagine
discovering a way to get rid of
your fears in a quick and painless manner. In fact it can even become
fun!
Did you know only two of all the fears you have are innate:
The fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Most of your fears
were learned in early childhood and then in later life under stressful
conditions.
Traditional therapeutic approaches would probably have you trying to
figure out where your fear originally came from. Maybe they'd have you
digging around in your childhood memories, recalling times you ate the
next-door neighbours purple Tulips. This type of approach tends to
associate the client into reliving unpleasantness and can take a long
time to achieve useful results. Personally I think this style is
way out of date and bordering on torture.
You'll probably be glad to know we're not going to be doing anything
like that. The truth is you can easily and quickly undo the learnings
that created specific fears and change your responses to something much
more useful.
So just how do fearful feelings occur then? Well lets use a common
example: Fred wants a raise and he's been wanting to ask his boss for
months. Finally he decides to go and ask. BUT when he starts the walk
down the corridor he starts to feel certain sensations in his body.
Weird stomach feelings. His breathing is constricted. Slight
sweating on parts of his body. His vision is effected. Fred decides to
turn back and then sits down feeling slightly annoyed with himself.
His body started producing 'fear chemicals.' What happened?
"Well it was because he defied his Dad one time when he was four. Let's
explore those forgotten memories...."
NO! NO! NO! Let's do something much smarter and definitely more fun.
Hey Fred come over here I want to show you something really cool! O'
come on, pick your lip up.
You know how before you got up to go and ask the boss for a raise, you
felt OK right? So between the time you got up and started walking
something happened. Something triggered those feelings in you. Here's a
fact for you: You either made a picture in your head or talked to
yourself in a way that created those fearful sensations and that
happened at an unconscious level out of your awareness.
"OK Colin that might be true but so what, what's your point?"
Well the point is by changing the internal sounds, pictures and voices
in your head you can begin to gain control of your emotions.
"Fair enough but how can I do that so when I'm in a similar situation I
automatically make useful pictures, sounds and voices in my head so I
remain in a resourceful state?"
Good question, here's just one way you can achieve the results you want
using a simple and powerful tool from the field of Neuro Linguistic
Programming (NLP)
=== Soothing Movie Music ===
1.Think of a situation where you feel fear.
2.Dissociate: See yourself in the situation like you would a
movie with you in it.
3.Imagine running the memory from the END of the fearful situation,
BACKWARDS to the START. Do this very fast in less then 1 second!
4.Think of some music that makes you feel the opposite of fear. For
example soothing classical music makes you feel relaxed. Perhaps
certain rock or dance music makes you feel energised/courageous etc.
5.Now hear the music, nice and loud, inside your mind whilst looking at
yourself going through the situation from START to END.
6.Break state. Now think of the situation you choose in Step 1 and
notice how your fearful feelings have diminished.
7.What will you see or hear just before you want this new feeling to
set in?
 "I have known Colin
Smith for several years now and from the
start have been
impressed by his desire to learn new skills
and his creativity
in applying them.
Colin has really
integrated the principles of NLP and shows
it in every page of
this eBook. When Colin includes a
technique in his
book, you can be assured that it is
extremely powerful
because he has tried it out himself and
tweaked every
aspect of it until it works perfectly. I
highly recommend
this book for everyone who is interested in
effective
changework techniques." -
Dirk Bansch (NLP Trainer)
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